Andy and I went to Toys R Us today to get Rhett his birthday present. When I was there a week ago, I found this really cool Harley Davidson Trike on clearance for like $24.00. I know the link I just gave you it shows that it is $200.00, I am telling you I know how to bargain shop.
Anyways, we had Rhett and Chloee with us. Rhett was being a wild crazy man..you know, Geeze mom I am in a toy store that is gigantic, and I need to tear everything apart.... that type of mood. So while I went up to the cash register Andy put Rhett up on his shoulders and walked out.
The lady at the register was watching him the whole way out. I thought, oh, she is going to tell me how cute he is, cause he was being cute, he was telling everyone bye, and waving, smiling his HUGE Rhett smile. Boy was I wrong.
I get up there, unload everything and she looks at me and says, "What's wrong with your son?"
I said, "Um, he has had some heart and lung issues and he has a feeding tube in his tummy."
"No," she says in an annoyed tone. "What is WRONG with his face."
Ah, once again I am thrown into reality that my son has an extra chromosome, and people are starting to notice it more as he gets older.
I politely smiled at her, and said, "Oh! He has Trisomy 21, you might know it as Down syndrome."
She stops for a second, looks at the trike, and says, "That is an interesting syndrome isn't it, Do you think he will EVER REALLY learn to ride this bike?"
"Oh yes", I say. "I bet by Christmas I won't be able to keep up with him. He is an extraordinary child, and he can do anything that any other child can do. I am the luckiest mom on earth to be blessed with such wonderful children."
Her mouth drops open, and she says in a very annoyed voice, "Well, my sister just found out that her baby was going to be a Down's baby and she aborted it. There is no way that we could have a child like THAT in our family."
I really didn't know what to say, and by this time I had paid and was collecting my items and putting them back in my cart.
I just kind of looked at her and said, "Well, I am sure that your sister made whatever choice that she felt was best, but my personal opinion is that she made a big mistake. I wouldn't trade my son for anything. He is here on this earth just the way he was meant to be, in my eyes he couldn't be more perfect."
She mumbles about how it was the only option, and I replied that it wasn't. I explained to her that there is a waiting list in the US for people wanting to adopt a child with Down syndrome.
At this point I think she was done, and had a few things to think about. I know I did.
I have always heard that 90% of women who are diagnosed prenatally as having a child with Down syndrome abort, but I have never known anyone, or come that close to knowing someone who had made that choice. It hurt. It hurt knowing how much I love Rhett, and how much my family loves Rhett.
He brings us laughter, peace, and love. We love all of the little things in life now that we never saw before. How do I explain this in a 5 min conversation with a stranger?
I can only tell them that we love him and would not have him any other way. I just wish more people "got it," you know?
Do any of you ever have these types of encounters? Because in the last year I have had 4 of them. It just seems so crazy that people can be so ignorant.
Oh well, Rhett ended up with a cool trike for super cheap anyways. I always knew he was a Harley type of kid.
8 years ago